How to Discipline Your Children Without Shouting or Smacking

Children need love, care and, occasionally, pampering. But, they also need discipline which cannot be inculcated overnight and it becomes more difficult during their adolescence. The culture of discipline and respect needs to stem from the parents, inculcated and developed in children right from the beginning of childhood. In today`s world, shouting, screaming or slapping a child may tantamount to child abuse and it is not a good reflection of family psychology either. It is a sign of violence and, thus, needs to be curbed. But the question is, can you discipline the children without smacking them?

The answer is YES! A recent survey stated that 88 percent of the parents yell at their children. Yelling and shouting occasionally is fine but it is not a great or advisable tool for discipline. When children can be tackled in a more appropriate “adult” manner, then why not?

Treat children like children and they will remain children. Treat them like adults and the chances are that they will behave like adults! Sit down with your child and tell her that certain behavior are not liked by you. Show her how her inappropriate behavior affects you. For example, if she does not clean up her room, explain her how inappropriately it will reflect upon you.

There are times when shouting or hitting the child will drive her to be a rebel. Do not let that happen. Instead tell her to sit and think about her actions. Explain the inappropriate behavior and leave her alone for some time. Let her contemplate what she has done because deep down she is aware that she behaved inappropriately. Rewarding good behavior is a great discipline tool. Rather than scolding always, reward her for appropriate behavior so that she is motivated to repeat that behavior.

If the child is old enough to “go through” the consequences of inappropriate behavior such as late submission of homework, let her face it once so that she doesn’t repeat the mistake! Treat your child with love, respect and care. Treat her like an adult and once in a while, let her face the consequences like an adult – it will do the TRICK!

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